COPE Galway Blog
Domestic Violence Only Happens To Poor People
The shame and the feeling that ‘this is only happening to me’ can be more prevalent with women from affluent backgrounds or who are successful in their careers.
Whose Fault Is It? Is It Me?
The fault lies solely with the person who chooses to abuse. The target of that abuse can never be at fault.
There is no abuse in same sex relationships
Abuse in intimate relationships is about power and control. People in same-sex relationships are not exempt from this abuse.
Is Abuse Just A Part Of This Culture?
The use of religion or culture is never an acceptable reason to perpetrate violence against women.Â
I Was Looking At Another Man – That’s Why He Hit Me
It is never alright to hit another person. It is never alright to believe that by ‘looking’ at another man, you somehow deserved to be hit.Â
He Only Hurts Me When He’s Been Drinking
When a man hurts or abuses a woman he is making a clear choice to do so – drunk or not.
He Only Hits Me When The Children Are In Bed – They Know Nothing About It
When abuse occurs at home, children are very much aware of what is happening and will be affected by this.
Can He Be A Good Father if He’s Abusive To Me, His Partner?
When a father is a perpetrator of domestic violence, it will affect his parenting in a negative way.
An Abused Woman Must Like The Abuse – Otherwise She’d Leave Him
There are many reasons why a woman does not or cannot leave in abusive relationships but none of them includes ‘liking’ the abuse.
There’s Two Of Them In It
Yes. There are two people in an abusive relationship – the ‘abuser’ and the partner who is the ‘victim’ of that abuse.
The Children Are Fine – He’s Never Laid A Finger On Them
A child who sees his mother being abused will be affected in different ways even if he is not directly abused.
I’m a Strong Woman – No Man Will Ever Abuse Me
Nobody goes into a relationship wanting to be abused. Everyone hopes for the fairy-tale ending.